From: L. Michael Hall
2017 Morpheus Reflections #42
October 4, 2017
Things can, and do, often become difficult. Surely you know that and have had that experience. So let’s explore that. First, what does that mean? It could mean a number of things.
- It could mean that you are going to have to put forth more effort and energy into what you’re doing if you are going to succeed. The difficulty is the effort that you have to expend and if you are already tired, demotivated, or lacking vitality, then the sense of difficulty increases. In this case, the problem that’s “difficult” is your basic energy level and sense of vitality.
- It could mean that you are going to have to do some things that you do not want to do. You have done what’s easy or fun, now comes the difficult part— getting yourself to engage in those actions that you do not like doing, do not want to do, do not enjoy doing. Perhaps you feel “uncomfortable,” perhaps it feels like too much of a stretch. In this case, the problem that’s “difficult” is mostly your attitude.
- It could mean that you are doing to have to do things that you find definitely distasteful or even abhorrent. It’s not that you don’t have the energy or don’t want to do it, you hate the very idea of doing them! In this case, the problem that’s “difficult” is your semantic reaction to the activity or activities that you are required to do.
Here we have a subjective human experience, one that we are calling— when things get difficult. When that happens to you (or to one of your coaching clients), what do you do? How do you typically and generally respond when things get difficult? How does your client typically respond? We all have our basic response patterns, do you know yours? Do you like yours? Would you like to update yours and develop a more mature, more robust, more effective and productive response pattern? What about one of your clients— if that’s what they want, do you know how to coach it?