From: L. Michael Hall
2021 Morpheus #5
February 3, 0 2021
Do you know the core of Meta-Coaching, that is, what is the central core when it comes to the process of coaching? The following is how I described the heart or core of Meta-Coaching in an interview that I did at the end of last year.
- Meta-Coaching is a conversation like none-other. It is deﬁnitely not a normal conversation; not at all. It is about one subject— the client’s experience and his or her hopes and dreams. It is not a two-way conversation which is what makes it very abnormal. In coaching, as the coach you focus exclusively on your client—the changes, and the unleashing that she wants.
- Meta-Coaching is a conversation absolutely based on rapport and compassion. As a result, a very unusual thing happens—the coaching conversation becomes intensely relational very quickly. Clients often experience a depth of connection and support that they experience in no other relationship and start talking about things they have never told anyone. It is extremely intimate, yet it is not about friendship. Coaching is not your way to expand your social world! In coaching, you connect emotionally with compassion and benevolent good will. It will be a dialogue of exchanging meanings. It is not a monologue, and it is certain not advice-giving! As you take your state and use it to elicit your client’s state– you create an experiential conversation for your client. So by its very nature, it is emotional.